Do you know what are the parenting mistakes you should try to avoid?
Many parents have experienced that unpleasant situation in parenting when they realize their child’s behaviour has changed, but they can’t understand where the problem came from.
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We never know the love of a parent until we become parents ourselves. Henry Ward Beecher Click To Tweet
“Let parents bequeath to their children not riches, but the spirit of reverence.” Plato
Your words and actions form the personalities of children from the day they are born. Click To Tweet
Remember that it is not necessary to tiptoe around children and worry about every single thing you say or do. Ensure that you always make healthy communication and showing lots of love a priority to children. If you do this, the rest will come naturally.
Self-esteem or Self-respect reflects a person's overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. Click To Tweet
It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs about oneself,(for example, “I am competent”, “I am worthy”).
“Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children.” Charles R. Swindoll
Help your children to develop a healthy self-esteem and that will help them to have strong coping skills, which is a trait that will help them throughout their lives.
As a parent, sometimes you may make mistakes, which is perfectly fine, but ensure that those mistakes do not negatively affect your child’s self-esteem.
Don't worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you. Robert Fulghum Click To Tweet
“A child who is allowed to be disrespectful to his parents will not have true respect for anyone.” Billy Graham
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- Do not criticise children
When your children make mistakes avoid criticising them, but focus on the action and help them to correct it.
- Don’t control but encourage interests and skills
Do not try to control or stop them from doing something of their interests and skills. Guide and support them until they acquire certain skills. Give them chance to explore and discover new activities and skills independently.
- Do not do everything for them, allow them to do whatever possible.
It is true that you can do most things more quickly and efficiently than young kids can do. Sometimes you may think that they will waste their study time if they do any work. Allow them to do some work on their own foster which will help to improve their independence and sense of efficacy. Allow and encourage them to do some tasks such as getting dressed, cooking the dishes on their own. That will make them happy and feel more capable and sufficient.
- Avoid praising too much
It is true that praise builds self-esteem and confidence, but this positive feedback tool should be used in proper time only. Avoid praising their personal traits, but praise specific actions, efforts and the skills they used to achieve the good results. This will make them understand that their effort is important for achieving the goals and good results in the future.
- Do not neglect healthy communication with children
Healthy communication among family members is very necessary for a positive family environment and strengthening emotional bonds. Healthy communication create considerable effects on their level of self-esteem.
- Do not strive for perfection
Try to avoid setting very high standards for your children because kids can become anxious and fearful of disappointing you and will give an opposite result of your desired effects. Let your child learn from mistakes and teach them to be fearless of failures.
- Do not compare with others
Never compare children with friends or not even with brother or sister. This is one of the worst mistakes many parents do when they get the results. This comparison affects the child’s mind and sometimes it leads to depression. Remember that two people are not exactly alike and no good comes from comparisons.
- Do not express your own lack of self-esteem
Children take note and learn from every word and action of parents. Always speak in positive terms about yourself. Teach your children how to think and act in tough times, show compassion and kindness to others and how to develop self-confidence.
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