Have you ever wondered, in the present world, why there are many relationships broken down? The main reason for relationships breaking down is the absence of love languages. Do you know the 5 love languages for healthy relationships? You can find many relationships breaking down in married life, parents and children, friends and neighbours. Most people do not realise the importance of the language of love for a healthy relationship. Are you wondering what is love language? Have you ever given any thought to how this is to be comprehended? In this article, you will find the 5 love languages and their importance of them for healthy relationships.
Have you ever felt that although you are doing everything to please your relationships, they’re still feeling frustrated and unloved? You are giving many compliments; hard working to earn maximum, giving gifts, and even helping in the work around the house, but they’re still feeling unloved. This will be incredibly annoying and disappointing for you. You should realise that the reason they are not feeling loved is that you are not speaking their love languages.
Here’s a poem about love languages:
Love comes in many shapes and hues,
Expressions unique to me and you.
Some speak through gifts, wrapped with care,
Others through acts of service, beyond compare.
Words of affirmation, warm and bright,
Soothe the soul and make everything all right.
Quality time, shared with those we hold dear,
The laughter, memories, and moments we hold near.
And then there’s touch, a gentle breeze,
A hug, a kiss, a gentle squeeze.
Each language is different yet the same,
A symbol of love, and never to blame.
So let us find the language we understand,
And use it to show our love, hand in hand.
For, in the end, it’s not the words we say,
But the love we give, in our own unique way.
A Short story explaining the love languages
Once upon a time, in a small village, there lived a couple named Jack and Jill. They had been together for several years, but despite their love for each other, they often found themselves feeling unfulfilled in their relationship.
One day, they came across a book about the five love languages and decided to give it a read. To their surprise, they discovered that they had been speaking entirely different languages of love all along.
Jack’s love language was physical touch, while Jill’s was quality time. Jack would often try to show his love by hugging and kissing Jill, but she didn’t understand why that was supposed to make her feel loved. On the other hand, Jill would spend hours talking to Jack and doing things together, but he didn’t understand why that was important to her.
Once they realized their mistake, they made an effort to speak each other’s love language. Jack made an effort to spend more quality time with Jill, while Jill made an effort to show affection through physical touch. Over time, they both felt their love for each other grow stronger and their relationship becomes much more fulfilling.
From then on, Jack and Jill lived happily ever after, speaking each other’s love language and understanding the importance of showing love in a way that was meaningful to their partner. They became a shining example to others in their village of the power of love languages and the importance of speaking your partner’s language.
The important thing to understand is that everyone doesn’t give and receive love in the same way. The problem is that most people want to be loved is how others want to be loved as well. If you do not speak the same language as your significant other, then you could be missing the mark completely and not even know it. For a healthy relationship, you should know how both of you give and receive love. It is necessary to learn the secrets to understanding and finding each other’s love languages.
Here are the 5 love languages:
1. Words of affirmation
Do you know the essential component of the language of love is words? The words we speak and write have an enormous power that can create life or demoralise people. So always be careful how you speak or write. Use words prudently in your relationships. Your spouse, children, family members, relatives, friends, neighbours, co-workers, or whoever may be the listener, ensure that your words are soft, encouraging, and filled with the language of love. Don’t you like hearing “I love you”, compliments, and meaningful words above all else? Here are 10 Positive Affirmations For Love
2. Acts of service
Love must be shown through action and should not be limited to words. Many people confine their love to the level of words, like saying ‘I love you’. Whenever there is an emergency, many people turn their backs and do not help others because they do not possess the language of love. They do not know the meaning of true love.
3. Quality time
We all know, in the present world, people are busy and have little time to spend and share with each other. If there is little time free, most people are busy with their smartphones and checking social media. Many people are suffering from smartphone addiction and social media addiction. Time is precious and priceless and hence don’t waste your time. You must find a few minutes daily to share with others, especially with family. A dinner table is a good place where all can share the activities of the day. Sharing problems with family is important for healthy relationships in the family.
4. Physical touch
Don’t you love hugs, holding hands, and thoughtful touches from a loving person? A lovely touch, kiss, and hug, all are the token of the love language. Children need loveful actions from their parents. Your parents and grandparents understand your love through your words and actions. Do you know the importance of a healthy parent-child relationship? There is an emotional dimension to all kinds of touch, kisses and hugs. But all these should be in the language of love and not in any bad meaning. Why And How To Touch The Heart Of Your Children?
5. Receiving Gifts
All over the world, gift-giving is accepted as a token of love. Any gift you give to others or receive from others on any occasion itself speaks that ‘I love you and remember you’. Gifts mean everything because it shows the love, and effort that went into the gift (not the cost of the object, but it’s the thought that counts). Don’t look at the price of the gift you received, but realise the value that person gives you and his language of love.
The 5 Love Languages Explained
Love is different for individuals
One is told to love everyone, asked what is love, urged to show unconditional love, or told we need to be loved as a whole, with our flaws.
In fact, more enlightened souls tell us that when we reach that stage, we will love all and be at peace. Find joy in everyone and everything. Certainly, a beautiful place to be.
We are human. There are many situations.
1. Wives devoted to their husbands. Nothing happens which is not blessed by the hubby.
2. Care and attention are given to disabled children to the detriment of the caring parents.
3. Relief when a son who could/would not settle down in life, passed away in a foreign land. The pressure from the son was huge.
4. Husbands do whatever the wives want them to do. Including outcasting his own relatives.
5. Accepting and supporting the child’s sexuality and life choices. Even though the cultural background is fiercely opposing.
6. Relief when a loving parent, now feeble and demanding, passes on.
Love is such a complex beast. And can be mistaken for duty, devotion, adoration and obsession.
What does love look like in practice?
What flaws turn love into something else?
Can we rise above and show unconditional love? How?
Do you know the difference between duty, devotion, adoration and obsession?
Credits: Subi Nanthivarman
From the above, you found the importance of understanding love languages. It is simply how special the person is to you or how you express your love to the other person to make the person feel how you feel. The secret 5 love languages work is making the person feel that he or she is loved and appreciated. The person who has the truest intention of pure love, sincere and consistent, is the only person who can deliver these love languages completely. When you have true love, love languages are driven or dictated by your heart. You will fail if you fake it because you can’t be sincere or consistent with something that is not real.
Love Is The Universal Language Everybody Can Speak. So, Which One Is Your Love Language?
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