In today’s fast-paced world, the image of the ‘supermom’ has become an almost unattainable ideal, placing immense pressure and unrealistic expectations on working mothers. The relentless pursuit of “doing it all” often leads to burnout and exhaustion. However, there is a different path to a fulfilling life—one that doesn’t involve shouldering every responsibility alone. It’s a path that champions emotional mastery, a skill that empowers working moms to navigate life’s challenges with grace and authenticity. In this blog, we’ll explore why it’s crucial to debunk the ‘supermom’ myth and wholeheartedly embrace emotional competence.
Liberating Working Moms From The Supermom Myth
Escaping The Supermom Syndrome
The ‘supermom’ myth suggests that working mothers should effortlessly juggle careers, family, and personal lives without breaking a sweat. But here’s the truth: believing in this myth can lead to physical and emotional burnout. The solution? Embracing emotional mastery. By developing this skill, working moms can release the heavy burden of ‘doing it all’ and recognize the importance of seeking help when needed. It’s not about being a superhero; it’s about being human.
Creating Space For Grace
Emotional mastery is not about suppressing your emotions. It’s about understanding and managing them effectively. When working moms nurture this skill, they gain the ability to gracefully navigate life’s challenges. Instead of reacting impulsively, they learn to respond thoughtfully, fostering healthier interactions in all areas of life. Emotional mastery doesn’t eliminate emotions; it empowers you to harness their energy constructively.
In his article, Tony Robbins says, “Feelings and emotional mastery play a role in our subjective experience of the world – that is, the way we interpret the things that happen to us, as opposed to objective experience, which is the facts of what actually happened.”
One of the most significant shifts that come with emotional mastery is the transition from self-sacrifice to self-care. Working moms often put themselves last on the list of priorities, but this is unsustainable in the long run. By recognizing their own needs and making self-care a priority, they ensure they are better equipped to fulfil their roles effectively. Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish—it’s essential for your well-being and your ability to care for others.
The relentless pressure to ‘do it all’ can lead to hasty and ill-informed decisions. Emotional mastery, on the other hand, cultivates a calm and centred mind. It enables working moms to make informed choices that align with their goals and values. When you’re not overwhelmed by the constant need to prove your ‘supermom’ status, you can make decisions that truly serve your family and yourself.
Striving to ‘do it all’ can strain relationships. The constant stress and exhaustion can lead to frustration and detachment. But by embracing emotional mastery, working moms send a powerful message: Success isn’t about doing everything alone. It’s about finding emotional balance and seeking support when necessary. This shift can lead to stronger, more supportive relationships both at home and at work.
Stress On The Rise For Women
Based on a 2010 APA survey, women tend to disclose a higher prevalence of physical and emotional stress-related symptoms compared to men. These symptoms include experiencing headaches (41% for women versus 30% for men), feeling like they could cry (44% for women versus 15% for men), or suffering from upset stomach or indigestion (32% for women versus 21% for men) within the previous month. Additionally, the survey found that women are more inclined than men to use eating as a coping mechanism for stress, with 31% of women as opposed to 21% of men reporting this behaviour.
What is the Super-Mum Syndrome?
This Super-Mum syndrome can arise when you begin to feel exhaustion and immense guilt at the same time for all the things you have got to do, but can’t get done.
It occurs when you feel responsible for all the many problems in your household that you feel you can’t handle. You can start to blame yourself for not having all the immediate solutions. You can feel overwhelmed trying to inefficiently multi-task.
Someone with Super-Mum syndrome may even think that you have to do all the many responsibilities instantly or else your family or career will fall apart. Source: Demartini
In letting go of the ‘supermom’ ideal and embracing emotional mastery, working moms reclaim their lives with authenticity and grace. It’s not about striving for perfection in every aspect of life; it’s about living with mindfulness and purpose. Through emotional competence, they weave their way through the intricate tapestry of life, infusing each thread with grace and empowerment. So, let go of the unrealistic expectations, nurture your emotional mastery, and embrace a life that is both fulfilling and authentically your own.
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Mathukutty P. V. is the founder of Simply Life Tips. He is a Blogger, Content Writer, Influencer, and YouTuber. He is passionate about learning new skills. He is the Director of PokketCFO.
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