How To Make More Friends?
In the ever-changing world of technology, people have many friends on social media whom they have never seen in real life. People try to make more friends, connect with them and share thoughts and knowledge. If you do not have many friends, then you might be looking for tips how to make more friends.
Making good friends is not easy, but it depends on your attitude and ways to establish an emotional connection with them.Talent does not make you more likeable. Click To Tweet
There are few ways to be liked by others. Let’s see what they are.
“Each day holds a surprise. But only if we expect it can we see, hear, or feel it when it comes to us. Let’s not be afraid to receive each day’s surprise, whether it comes to us as sorrow or as joy It will open a new place in our hearts, a place where we can welcome new friends and celebrate more fully our shared humanity.” Henri Nouwen
Here are 5 tips to make more friends:
- Smile from within
- Stop being moody
- Stop Judging
- Avoid being an attention seeker
- Be quick to apologize
“I’ve never been socially outgoing, but I suspect I’ve gotten more and more ambivalent about making new friends. I’m irritated by how-do-you-do chit-chat, but that’s how new relationships usually begin.” Ariel Gore
This video gives you essential tips to be more likeable and to improve your confidence. If you don’t want to watch the video, you can read the video transcript below.
Hey! welcome, everyone. I’m Niharika and you are watching Skillopedia, the place to learn skills for the real world.
So what are we going to learn in today’s session? Do you want to be more likeable? Of course, we all want to be liked by others. Now, this is one of the most common questions that people ask. Hey Niharika how do I be more likeable? Well, people think that very few people are lucky just because it’s more like a talent to be likeable. But that’s not true. Well, there are different ways that you can practise in order to be liked by others. So which are these ways to be more likeable by others? Well, that’s what we are going to look at.
Well, the first thing that you can do is smile. When I say smile, I really mean that you need to smile from within. Yes, of course, one smile can do wonders. So it’s extremely important for us to smile so that people start liking us. When you walk around these days, you end up seeing people are way too busy on their phones. Tapping on their phone screens and they just don’t want to look up.
Go to the airport; go to a coffee shop or probably you are just standing in a queue waiting for something. Uhh, people are so busy on their phone. Come on people, I mean great communications start with a great smile. So look up, smile and probably you can greet people as well.
Now when you do this, you will see a difference. These days’ people are so busy and if surprisingly someone just smiles back at you, Wow! You are going to love that, right? So the first thing that you need to do is to smile, in order to be liked by others.
Well, the second tip that I have for you is, stop being moody. Well yes, you need to keep calm and stop being moody. Well I have worked with people who one day are like super fun, laughing, cracking jokes, are in a really good mood and the very second day, they are so grouchy. Oh my god, they like start cursing, yelling and I’m like what’s wrong with this person? Does that happen to you? Of course, it does. So the people who are moody are definitely not liked by others. So it’s important for you to stop being moody.
Well, of course, we all have issues; we all have these personal thunderstorms that are going on in life. But this should not affect your relationship with others. It’s important for you to interact with people in a very nice manner. Now when I say that stop being moody, doesn’t mean that you have to be in a great mood every single day. But I’m just asking you to be nice to others so that you are liked by others.
The next thing that you need to keep in mind is to stop judging. When you meet people for the first time and if you feel that their behaviour or their appearance does not fit what you like, what do you do? Of course, you pass judgments, right? Uhh… you need to stop doing that. Judging is definitely not a great idea. You need to be open-minded. Especially in today’s world where people belong to different walks of life.
Well, of course, there are going to be differences. Difference of opinions, the way they work, their style of working. It’s all different. It’s not always gonna match the way you work or the way you like. The world does not revolve around you, isn’t it? So it’s time to stop judging people. Stop commenting, stop making these weird assumptions about others. If you want to work on a great team, it’s important for you to come on a common ground and work together.
So what’s the next thing? Well, are you an attention seeker? Well if you are, then you need to quit doing that. Well many people I meet, they are all about themselves. I love to do this, I really don’t care about this, I am into this, I don’t like this, I, me, myself. Well, stop it. Once again, the world does not revolve around you. It’s time to work for others. Change that I, me, myself to us.
Remember that when you are working in a team it’s all about to be in, together. It’s important to listen to others. It’s important to understand others and appreciate others. Are you one of those people who jump into each and every conversation and have a point to everything? Well, you need to stop doing that.
We all love attention but doesn’t mean that we always have to be that person who seeks way too much attention by others. Because in that manner people are not going to like you. So it’s time for you to go ahead and make other people feel special and better in their lives.
The last thing that you need to practise in order to be more likeable by others is, be quick to apologize. When you belong to the business world, there are going to be times when people are going to be super mad at you. They are going to be really upset with you and probably you have no idea, that this guy or this girl is so mad at you. So what do you do? Well, it’s time to diffuse the tension and that’s’ how you are going to win people or probably influence others.
Now when people are mad at you, don’t be the person who would hold grudge against that other person. Well, you need to work on that problem. You need to solve them in a better manner and you need to apologize. So be the bigger one, go ahead and just apologize. In that way, people are going to appreciate and start liking you. So do practice to apologize to others.
This brings me to the end of this session. So the things that you need to really practise in order to win people’s hearts is to keep smiling, stop judging others, stop being these attention seekers, just stop being moody and apologize. If you practise all of these, definitely you are going to be liked by others and keep watching us on Skillopedia, the place to learn skills for the real world.
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